Born to live the Soft Life

Forced to hustle

The Soft Life chose me; I’ve always known I was born to enjoy, born to experience beauty, born to live in luxury, I can feel it in my bones, when I go to a nice place I feel just at home, when I experience luxury it feels natural even the interpretation of my maiden surname is “Life is Sweet”, so you see, I was born to live the sweet life…but forced to “huzzle”.

I have observed that good things don’t necessarily come because of how harrrrrrd you work or how harrrrrrd life is. Here’s how I am experiencing the soft life:

• A few weeks ago I saw one hair like this on the gram, It was from @Blvckhair_ng, absolutely gorgeous, I got the extensions in colour 2/30 (a refreshing colour from my typical black), and it was installed in my house. Nothing says “soft life” like getting home service for braids with 6 hands making sure it does not hurt and styling your hair to perfection, finishing your hair in time while you comfortably watch Yoruba movies while occasionally popping in the kitchen for a bite. Home service sweet I nor go lie. It screams Soft Life.

• I went to the spa for a pedicure (I’ve not had one in years), one part of me was like, “this same leg that you will soon use to enter market again and be dragging price of kpomo”, but I reminded myself that I cannot come and go and kill myself so I booked the pedicure - I was offered champagne, I settled in and had a fabulous feet massage. Everything…SOFT.

• After that massage I knew there was No Way I was going to any market; I went into my SOILLIGHT app (go and download it to your phone) ordered my ingredients and had them deliver it to my house. Omo, technology truly makes life easier. They delivered Yam, Garri, Frozen Chicken and everything I ordered straight to my doorstep. No bargaining, no Lagos sun, no traffic… just soft life.

Suffering is not a badge of honour (Women, I am looking at YOU!) In 2025, we are choosing softness, ease, and intentional joy. Yes, life will still life. Kids will still scatter your bed. NEPA may still try you. But our mindset? Changed.

I’m learning to define what the soft life looks like for me — not what Instagram says it should be. Not luxury for show, but peace that flows. Here’s what soft living means in my world, for now:

• Asking for help (and receiving it without guilt). I signed up with Babylounge and they sent me an amazing nanny. What a relief!

• Delegating what drains me (market runs? Soillight app, please).

• Creating a life I don’t need a vacation from. I recently added spotlights in my living room and my goodness the difference it makes. I also bought more plants and flowers to grow my garden. I’m taking it one step at a time ( you can see it in this video)

Living “soft” is the little things: like meal planning and prepping and using a Food Timetable to reduce the mental load and so I’m not stressed at 5pm. It is having a corner to sip tea in peace, not rushing to do it all in one day, and celebrating even the softest wins. Let me say this: soft life is not laziness. It’s luxury redefined. it is a strategy for living.

On a deeper level, when I woke up this morning (1st of May), out of habit I picked up my phone and the first video I saw on TikTok was a video from Apostle Selman declaring that May was a month of rest- REST ROUND ABOUT. I finished the video, made a cup of Tea and came back for my devotion. I started a New Plan and what was the topic? “The Invitation To REST” - how interesting… The Bible passage to read was Matthew 11:28 and it just confirmed what my Theme was for May; resting and living the soft life, anything wey strong pass puff-puff I nor dey do.

So I am extending the invitation to REST to you. You are allowed to slow down. You are allowed to do less. You are allowed to enjoy your life.

Soft life is your portion.

Sweet Jollof and light,

Sisi

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